Wow, wowey, wowser, wowzerton, Fucking WOW! WTF did I just experience? It is in times like these that I fall back on my faith. In fact, it was Christian Black Jesus Music that seemed to really irritate my transgressor the most. So, I’d sing it at the top of my lungs. I’ve since saged, blessed, lit incense and other actions to bring back the light into my home. It got dark for a minute.
Preface- I have been contemplating what and how I am going to write my next post. It was going to be about mental health, borderline personality disorders, and other personality disorders. Then I realized I’m human and am dealing with my own traumatic response to his actions and everything that ensued over the last month. I also need to maintain my own mental health, which was gravely affected by this person. I’m traumatized and fearful of this crazy person being willing to spread lies in order to profit off my misery. I wanted this post to be about my own trauma. I can’t help anyone if I can’t help myself first and I find comfort in helping others, so I need that in my life. No I’m not like him, I don’t steal from others what they’ve spent their whole struggling life to create. I’m not a liar. (I feel like Candi from RHOA- mmmhmmm.)
Backstory-
I had no income for over 2 months. I was wrongfully terminated by my previous employer at a job that I loved. I loved it because I got to work directly with our community, our brothers and sisters (and everything in-between). I was stuck between a rock and a hard place. It has been challenging (to say the least) getting my own business up and running. Contracts, location, waiting, permits, licenses, and well… it was a lot of work and I’m up and running now.
I read his post in the Palm Springs Gay Men’s Group, he was seeking a roommate. I talked it over with my friends and after a failed attempt at a gofund me to keep me afloat and start my own business, I decided I needed to use all my resources and get a roommate. I didn’t want a roommate. It was either that lose my house, or sleep with Rhonda Rae. I love Ron but just not like that. I made the wrong choice and should have considered selling and downsizing to a 1-bedroom condo. ☹
I should have checked with his current roommates at the time, but he told me how “weird” they were and how the owner of the home was upset with him because he didn’t sleep with him, “He wanted me to film porn there and I didn’t want to.” “He tried to sleep with me and I set up boundaries.” (This is what the bitch does- lie, plot, bait and steal. She thinks she’s smarter than you and me. She thinks she’s above the law- even in one of his texts he shows who he is, “My name alone is enough to dismiss lawsuits.”)
I met him a few times in person, and it seemed like he was well known and dare I say liked in our community. Our interactions were no more than an hour at a time, and he even came to hang out on my birthday. Looking back at it, I think that is as long as he can keep it together (without making someone think twice about having him move in).
Ron has helped me so much, but I feel bad. Not bad enough to give him some Bussy, but bad nonetheless. I didn’t want to lose my home and I know that my own private practice will take off given the opportunity and it’s starting too. It was the only thing I could think of while my insurance contracts were processed. (And boy do I regret it!)
It was a gamble on a roommate that failed miserably, and it was terrifying, traumatizing. I usually have, I think, good intuition, but that was definitely blurred by the gummies. He is trying to attack my use of THC, when he had used needles in my home. The gummies help with my back pain, and they make me all lovey, kind, and creative. Oh, and funny, at least I think I’m fucking hilarious on gummies.
There was some selfish intention behind having a cute younger guy move in. I told you bitches, I’m not a liar. I am many things, but a liar is not one of them. I thought for a minute that I was possibly missing out on a whole other part of Palm Springs, the one that happens after 8:30-9 PM. I thought he was cute, clearly we would have fun going out and I’ll get the cuties he doesn’t want. He is cute, way cuter than I am, and I admit it. But he’s also cray cray with (in my opinion) evil/dishonest/criminal intent! I was lonely for a friend my age and it took a whole month of nonsense for me to realize I’m not alone. This experience has made me realize I have a community here. I may have felt lonely, but I’ve never been alone. I’m not alone- at all and that realization is probably the only silver lining to this disgusting grab for my assets (which aren’t much). Bitch should have probably chosen a victim with money. Be weary newbies- it is a learning curve here and snakes like him are abundant in our garden of dicks and rainbows.
I see you guys now more than ever and I appreciate you for all the support, messages, texts, leads, and screenshots you’ve provided. You’ve had my back and I appreciate it immensely. I hope to always have your back too. May we all stand together in honesty, integrity, and for just simply doing the right thing by each other and for each other.
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So here it goes, there was a verbal agreement, and he voided that agreement pretty early on in his stay in my home. Everything was violated when he wanted to prostitute himself out of my home, took pictures of himself advertising said prostitution in my home, and posted it on a website where sells himself. If anyone is going to break the law in my house- its going to be me and I’m not even doing that. So N to the mother fn O- NO, he can’t prostitute himself out of my home. No, he cannot use drugs, stay up all night and verbally attack me while I’m in my room. No he cannot scream at me through my barricaded door when I’m with clients via video session. No, I will not aide him in his efforts to con rich millionaires out of money with fake invoices (when they are on vacation). I won’t do it- that’s not me. I told him that sounded like “meth talk” and I have every text message (now screenshot and sent to private email(s) to protect myself). That’s what makes him so mad- he can’t control me and he thought he could. He’s done this before. There’s no way I’m his first victim. He even left a collection notice from Latitude Thirty Three Apts, I’d love to hear what you have to say. (Please email me and I’ll provide you with our court date and you can appear and say your piece). This hurricane leaves destruction and devastation in his wake. He doesn’t realize that destruction and devastation is where I come from and the chaos is sadly where I feel comfortable. While he was causing havoc I was screen shotting everything, taking notes and creating a concrete timeline. When he was screaming at my door, I was taking video of myself. Not because I’m sooo into myself but because he can’t say I did something if I’m on constant video. And that’s who this person is… a person who will lie about you and your actions.
So, I’m not exactly sure when I realized I was being set up and played for fool, but looking back at text messages, it was probably the beginning of week two. This motherfucker wasn’t sleeping and was pacing around at all hours of the night. From my experience, and in my opinion that bitch was cracked the fuck out! (Ermofucknday) One time he even asked me to ignore when he’s rude to me and not make it about me. Well I’m not willing to not make mean actions or attacks towards me, not about me. I’m not one to back down from a bully or a good challenge.
But alas, it is my fault. I let the bully into my home, and he terrorized me, lied about me, tried to set me up over and over, and even tried to use the police to intimidate and harass me. Dumb bitch didn’t know I love the popo and also would be making my own calls to them for my own safety and evidence. I saw him coming but it was too late. He had dug his clutches into me and wouldn’t let go. He wants money. I shouldn’t have answered that call from my attorney about a settlement. There is no settlement- I declined it.
I began to message Ron and Toni in week two, stating that I needed to make sure that he knew he deserved a place all on his own. Thinking that it would be the only way to get out someone with BPD, is to make them believe it was his idea. In hopes that we could plan a peaceful transition out of my home, because clearly it wasn’t working out so early on. I could see this person was borderline AF and I do not like to fuck around with borderline people. They are crazy. They do crazy shit, they say crazy shit, they act crazy, and they will do and lie just to get ahead no matter what the subject matter when they are on drugs; and sometimes they do it just for the mean nature of it all. (Not all BPD. I hate using blanket statements, but this one yes.)
I hate to say it to BPDrs, but sometimes… maybe just resist your evil natured lie driven, hungry desire to hurt somebody else and let there be peace. Just because your life is in turmoil doesn’t give you permission to inflict turmoil on others.
Let that evil Jezebel spirit rest. People with borderline personality disorder (or traits), and other personality disorder traits, specifically narcissism, are scary AF. A narcissist will think they are so much smarter than you. They will think you are dumb, just lean into that. A narcissist will think that you’re not smart enough to be onto them or their evil plots, because again, they’re way smarter than you. Lean into that– and that a narcissist will try to set you up. (Prepare for that.) He will try to get you to have relationsions and get you to fuck their Bussy, but don’t lean into that. They will parade and present themselves in jockstraps in shared spaces, don’t lean into that. They will moan, “Fill my hole… oh my hole” while bent over your kitchen stove, don’t lean into that. Lean away from that shit and go hide in your room, like I did. Hand to God, (in a President Bill Clinton voice), “I did not touch that hooker.” Only Hottie Bill Clinton did touch the hooker and I did not. I would however, let Bill Clinton touch me and I’d love to see him in a jockstrap. But the hooker that was in my home- NO. Ew.
I could hear my internal voice joking around, “It’s a trap Molly, you in danger girl.” And “Get OUT!” I’m still waiting for Whoopi Goldberg to pop out and say, “Leave, you in danger girl.” I was terrified and I felt like I was in danger. That’s why I did the only thing I could think of was record myself continuously, because I knew this lying hooker was going to make false allegations. I know this bitch isn’t smarter than me. She can’t spell, she can’t drive, she wrecks her car while on drugs, and then talks people out of calling the police. She’s a criminal.
I was the dumb bitch that let him into my home, but that was a different kinda dumb. That was like Utah Newbie Dumb, Dumb, Dumb. I think …. Well, I thought…. I felt alone and I was broke, and I was trying everything I could minus selling myself on Rentmen to survive. This desert is not cheap! Neither is this experience. It has cost me more than he paid in rent.
This person would try to create traps for me, and I could see them, and I’d play along for a minute to see what his game was but now I know. He’s after money I don’t even have. For example, he’d walk around in a jockstrap with his ass out, bending over; but I sure as hell did not lean it to that! I’d suggest if you fall prey to this con, be like me, don’t even put your own jockstrap on cause it’s a trap. Everything that bitch did was a trap, everything.
That’s why he insisted he didn’t like to talk in person and was more comfortable texting. “I think I’m on the spectrum. “ Nah, bitch, you’re borderline (please see DSM for diagnostic criteria). He was just trying to twist someone’s words (mine) into something he could use against me, to blackmail me. That’s some serious premeditated creepy shit. I wonder if he even sees that? If he doesn’t he needs more help than I previously thought. He’s the worst kinda creep. He bullies people and tires to push them to the point they snap and then calls them a bully. And he was so cruel, he even smiled a creepy and evil at me from the table when he wouldn’t let me leave the living room. All of it is on video. ALL OF IT!
I just have to say to the community at large, “Bitches, there’s a snake in the hen house.” Do what you want with that info. Hire, fire, fuck, don’t fuck, I don’t care- I just needed him out of my safe space. My conscious will be at peace knowing I tried to protect other people from these antics. Be careful what you share with that person. Like be careful with anything you share with that person- be careful. (He even turned an invitation to watch Cocaine Bear in the living room to me harassing him. WTF eva! It was a great movie and I highly recommend it. Then this crazy dude turned around and was pulling out his dick in my restroom when I was getting ready (which I left immediately without even looking- I knew it was a trap). He asked me for so many rides after he moved in, and sent so many text messages after. He was not in danger, I was. I feel like I still am.
Ew, his evil grin while he played Miley Cyrus, “Don’t fuck with my freedom” is seared into my brain. That’s okay, I have a lot of other traumatic shit back there- join the other shitty memories. Just leave my house. I lovingly admit- I FUCKING LOVE MILEY. Yes it’s a cool song, yes I love the song and no he can’t do anything that’s going to make me hate that song or Miley. It’s a great song and evil doesn’t win. Lies don’t win when you record yourself continually- remember that.
He’s in the hen house- again, a snake is in the hen house. Do what you want with that info. You can’t say I didn’t tell ya’ll or that I didn’t use my voice because I sounded the alarm. I was loud because I clearly thought I was in danger, like I said I still do. I didn’t know WTF was wrong with this person screaming at me in my own bedroom, uninvited and high looking (face gaunt and hallow- same with the dead eyes).
I literally stopped my phone call and thought, “Holy shit, I don’t anything about this guy. Like nothing. Is he going to kill me?” Then I heard him tell the police that I was in my room with a gun. Yes, I own a gun. NO, the gun never was pointed at him. He wouldn’t be here if it had. I was trained never to point the gun at anyone unless you are going to shoot them. Just another one of his lies.
This whole experience was pretty traumatizing to me. I was terrified and if you don’t know what terror looks like- again, I recorded everything. I know what it feels like to not be believed from my experiences in Utah. That’s why I was quick to jump in front of a live doorbell feed and remain there at all times. Then I set up my puppy cam and stayed there behind a barricaded door, for my safety and the safety of my animals. This was some next level creepy shit that I hope never happens in your home.
So to process my trauma, I do some pretty unhealthy things, that will eventually lead to healthy coping skills. First, I eat everything. I snack the fuck out and eat everything sweet. Next I powerwatch TV, and yes I watched some sad, funny and scary shit. I watched AHS, the last season. Since Kim Kardashian is starring on AHS, I wanted to catch up. I kinda stopped power watching a couple seasons ago.
Well since I brought it up, here’s a couple of quotes from last season, episode one, “Look at what we can create ….if we know what terrible things happened in this place then we are forced to confront the truth that terrible things can happen at all.” It resonates in me. The truth is there was evil in my house and I had to use the law to remove it, and the law was not moving quickly. Quickly as it was allowed to, but in the meantime I was scared.
They added a description of the scary AHS home, something like it was, “Amityville horror on crystal meth.” And that sounds about right from my point of view too.
When dealing with trauma, “It’s impossible not to get a little dark -depressed. It affects all of us.” It is important that I deal with my own trauma, seek out my own therapist (hopefully he’s gay, loving, and fun like me), and work through this the best way I know how. The same way I’ve dealt with everything bad- I write about it and I let it go.
Here’s to letting it go. Looking forward to court because I have the most respect for Law Enforcement, Judges, Court Rooms, and courtroom officials. I spent a good deal of my late 20s early 30s in courtrooms working as a CPS worker or seeking Permanency for foster kids.
I’ll see him in court. I look forward to presenting facts.
Restfully and Finding My Happy Again,
The Happy and Dumb but Learning Homo
PS Don’t be so lonely that you can’t see the love around you.
PSS In packing this person’s belongings… do I put the used needles carelessly discarded in drawers or bags in the same box with the new needles? I’m just not sure.
PSSS I can do hard things. I can heal, I can overcome adversities, I can recenter and find my peace. I will not let this harden my heart but I am weary and my guards are up now. LIKE WAAAAY UP! Like Shania Twain UP UP UP, Can only go up from here
Up, up, up, Where the clouds gonna clear, Up, up
There’s no way but up from here.
PSSSS Just because someone says something about you doesn’t mean it’s true. Ew, I wouldn’t touch something so ugly on the inside no matter the wrapping paper. It’s contents are disgusting and dishonest- I literally shrivel. I’ll pass.
PSx5 Document everything. Record everything. A BPD will lie and you’ll have to prove you’re an honest person and there is nothing like a continuous feed to free you of any lies they throw at you.
PSx6 I don’t sleep with prostitutes. AT least not yet. Maybe when I get older but I don’t need to do that now. I’m young here and cute. They don’t care if I’m repressed, they still want to bone. I don’t have to sleep with prostitutes. I was told by him, “I’m also like a therapist, a sex therapist for people like you who are sexually repressed.” Bitch, I am sexually repressed and okay with it. His words don’t penetrate me and I never penetrated him, like ew.
PSx7 “I could be your sex therapist. People pay me $600 an hour and sometimes I don’t even have to sleep with them.” Ummm, no thanks. That person was here for rent money, not sex, perhaps a friend’ship but that ‘ship has sunk. It capsized because of the lies they say and not knowing their own “baseline” of sobriety. “It’s been so many years I don’t even have a baseline.” He should have led with that during the interview process.
PSx8 Protect yourself, your home, your animals and call the police if you become prey to this type of scam. I’m not the first one. He had videos of some guy beating him up. I’d like to talk to that guy. I wonder what he tried to steal from him?
PSx9 I’ve got God on my side. I know many people in our community aren’t fans but I am. I get to be me…just like you get to be you.
Nah, nah, nah listen here, mean devil
I’ve been, I know I was wrong
But you’ve been messing this thing
Here up now for far too long
So in the name of Jesus
Go ‘head and be gone
The Bible said and I believe it’s true
I no longer have to listen to you
I’m holy now, my spirit’s free
And you gon’ have to quit botherin’ Lee
PSx10 This person threatened me with all his followers, like he does others. “Let’s make you famous.” Well, I guess we made each other famous, cause now he’s Utah famous. 😊 LOL
PSx11 One of the worst people I’ve ever encountered in my life. I’ve been around some bad people doing mental health competency evals. Granted, I didn’t get stoned then and granted I’m not getting stone with anyone- anymore, but this dude takes the cake and then lies about ever seeing a cake.
PSx12 Everything he says is a lie. It’s so awful… it would be comical if it didn’t have potential to harm innocent people. I’ve never wanted his things. In fact, I only touched them under the watchful eye of two cameras. One my iphone and the other a puppy cam. Not going to get me there either. I don’t want your things.
PSx13 It was very strange to have people tell me not to post things like live feeds because it made me look bad. Look, I thought I was going to be attacked, possibly killed or even raped. He masturbated on my door, watched me through my windows (with my shades down), and has never seen me naked- ever! He has seen me in a swimsuit but I didn’t change in front of him. Ew.
PS x14 Today is day 9 of the 18 days I’m obligated to store his items. They are in storage for $80 a day. I followed the law and kept good, if not great documentation.
CIVIL CODE – CIV
DIVISION 3. OBLIGATIONS [1427 – 3273.55]
( Heading of Division 3 amended by Stats. 1988, Ch. 160, Sec. 14. )
PART 4. OBLIGATIONS ARISING FROM PARTICULAR TRANSACTIONS [1738 – 3273.55]
( Part 4 enacted 1872. )
TITLE 5. HIRING [1925 – 1997.270]
( Title 5 enacted 1872. )
CHAPTER 4.5. Disposition of Personal Property Upon Request of Tenant [1965- 1965.]
( Chapter 4.5 added by Stats. 1988, Ch. 797, Sec. 2. )
1965.
(a) A residential landlord shall not refuse to surrender, to a residential tenant or to a residential tenant’s duly authorized representative, any personal property not owned by the landlord which has been left on the premises after the tenant has vacated the residential premises and the return of which has been requested by the tenant or by the authorized representative of the tenant if all of the following occur:
(1) The tenant requests, in writing, within 18 days of vacating the premises, the surrender of the personal property and the request includes a description of the personal property held by the landlord and specifies the mailing address of the tenant.
(2) The landlord or the landlord’s agent has control or possession of the tenant’s personal property at the time the request is received.
(3) The tenant, prior to the surrender of the personal property by the landlord and upon written demand by the landlord, tenders payment of all reasonable costs associated with the landlord’s removal and storage of the personal property. The landlord’s demand for payment of reasonable costs associated with the removal and storage of personal property shall be in writing and shall either be mailed to the tenant at the address provided by the tenant pursuant to paragraph (1) or shall be personally presented to the tenant or to the tenant’s authorized representative, within five days after the actual receipt of the tenant’s request for surrender of the personal property, unless the property is returned first. The demand shall itemize all charges, specifying the nature and amount of each item of cost.
(4) The tenant agrees to claim and remove the personal property at a reasonable time mutually agreed upon by the landlord and tenant but not later than 72 hours after the tender provided for under paragraph (3).
(b) For the purposes of this chapter, “reasonable costs associated with the landlord’s removal and storage of the personal property” shall include, but not be limited to, each of the following:
(1) Reasonable costs actually incurred, or the reasonable value of labor actually provided, or both, in removing the personal property from its original location to the place of storage, including disassembly and transportation.
(2) Reasonable storage costs actually incurred, which shall not exceed the fair rental value of the space reasonably required for the storage of the personal property.
(c) This chapter shall not apply when disposition of the personal property has been initiated or completed pursuant to the procedure set forth in Chapter 5 (commencing with Section 1980) or the occupancy is one defined by subdivision (b) of Section 1940.
(d) A landlord who complies with this chapter shall not be liable to any person with respect to that person’s personal property that is given to another person. In the event of conflicting demands, the first timely request for surrender of personal property received by the landlord shall prevail.
(e) Any landlord who retains personal property in violation of this chapter shall be liable to the tenant in a civil action for all the following:
(1) Actual damages not to exceed the value of the personal property, if the personal property is not surrendered by the later of either of the following: (A) within a reasonable time after the tenant’s request for surrender of the personal property, or (B) if the landlord has demanded payment of reasonable costs associated with removal and storage and the tenant has complied with the requirements set forth in paragraphs (3) and (4) of subdivision (a), whichever is later. Three days is presumed to be a reasonable time in the absence of evidence to the contrary.
(2) An amount not to exceed two hundred fifty dollars ($250) for each bad faith violation of this section. In determining the amount of the award, the court shall consider proof of matters as justice may require.
(3) The court may award reasonable attorney’s fees and cost to the prevailing party.
(f) The remedy provided by this chapter is not exclusive and shall not preclude either the landlord or the tenant from pursuing any other remedy provided by law.
(Added by Stats. 1988, Ch. 797, Sec. 2.)
PS 15 Thank you to PS Law Enforcement. I’m so sorry that I had to call you guys so often, daily. That’s how terrified I was. I’m just so sorry that I was dumb enough to get wrapped up with someone so unhinged. I thank you for keeping me and our city safe. Thank you and I’m sorry.
PS 16 This person used the N word on multiple occasions, has tried to discredit other therapists, discredit a psychiatrist because he didn’t want to prescribe him controlled substances and then sent a scathing email to other people (including his own doctor) for referring people to this psychiatrist. Anyone that disagrees with him is in his line of site. Fuck with his drugs, his ability to victimize people further – you will find yourself a victim just like me.
PS 17 Sadly, I think our whole community was taken by a liar. I don’t think that Lindsey Graham even hired him as a prostitute- otherwise something would have come of it. He lies to get attention. He lies to get ahead. I wish Lindsey Graham would have hired him because I don’t like Lindsey Graham at all. He’s gross and that would just be fitting in my mind, but I don’t believe it now. Hopefully if this person is the reason why Lindsey Graham blindly follows traitor trump than I hope Senator Graham knows there’s so much evidence proving this person is a liar – he shouldn’t worry. You have nothing to be afraid of. If that is the reason why you support that baboon, then you can stop. Save yourself, your soul and our country by doing the right thing and telling the truth. My bully and oppressor could also take that advice- tell the truth. (traitor trump has got to have something on Graham)
