A couple of a catchy tunes have made their ways deep into my brain, “I’m Geneva la diva mas Latina…I’m Geneva la diva mas Latina…” and “I like big butts and I cannot lie.” Wtf does this have to do with a blog post? Well, I’m glad you asked cause I was just about to tell you- bitch!
Ruples does it again with Season 16. What a great cast, well most of them. I do have to admit if I were judging on groups, group 1 would be my fav so far. However, I do love me some color on my screen and the la diva mas Latina, flips, whiplashes, and b-a-n-a-n-a-s (say it like Gwen), have me intrigued. And I read some of the comments from you bitches before the show even started, not at all impressed with the cast? Mmmmhmmmm, you change your mind?
My least favorite queen so far….well …. the mean Russian. In my best Meryl Streep voice, “A rude Russian as the villain picking on those weaker than they are. Groundbreaking.” So, transparent and easy to see who she is. No thank you. I like bitchy, I don’t like mean and cruel. There is a difference.
And who is my favorite so far this season? Well bitches, its Ts Madison. She done had me crackin the fuck up during that DMV skit. The mixture of some bomb weed and Ts Madison playing off of Ruples had me crackin the fuck up and made for a fun evening.
And did you see Mama Ruples? That bitch done saw something crawlin on the desk and *SMMMMMACK* killed that earwig -D E A D! OMFG- I died! That 63-year young icon has reflexes of a mother tukin gazelle. Then the bitch looked at Ts Madison and said something like, “You need to quit bringing in food from home.” LOL – DEAD.
That leads me to the purpose of my fat fingers typing this message right now. In a world that has some shitty messages towards our people, I hope you look for the joy, love, and fun in our world. Sometimes we have to tune into things that show us love so that message will resonate with our souls, and we can share it with each other and the little animals we surround ourselves with and tune out the hate.
There are some scary things happening in America. And it has the potential to get even scarier if we don’t stick together and vote blue this November. In one of my previous posts, I acknowledged that anxiety and worry is on the rise in our community. It’s bleeding into almost every session that I had last week. I’m sure that it will continue and even get worse as the election draws near. Look, I can even tell you the straight white people I see are even scared of what will happen to our country and its citizens if traitor trump- the insurrectionist is reelected. It’s not just queer people. It’s also straights, blacks, Asians, Muslims, Mexicans and Jews. We need to all stick together in love against his hate.
I admit it’s hard to keep the faith that America will do the right thing for ALL of its citizens when we see so much of negativity on our tv screens; but just remember- he lost the last election. We all united against him, his actions, the insurrection, and the evil and white supremacy that is him.
“You take the lies out of him, and he’ll shrink to the size of your hat;
you take the malice out of him, and he’ll disappear.”
Life on the Mississippi- Mark Twain.
I have faith we will all stick together again and that Black America, specifically Black women will yet again take it to the polls, vote and save our democracy. But it not only rests on their shoulders- it rests on your shoulder pads too.
Want to know a little secret? When I start losing some of that faith, I dive into things that make me happy. Since I’m on a dick diet, this bitch surrounds himself with puppies, old funny people who love me, and movies and tv shows that show queer people in a positive light. It reinforces my belief that we are ALL deserving of love, acceptance, opportunities, and equality. (And no the dick diet doesn’t mean that I’m only eating dicks…It means that I’m on a temporary dick-ation.)
If you are like me, sometimes the negativity seeps in and stays in the brain. I’ve come to find out so many gay men are… and we tend to be super critical of ourselves. We still strive for the best even if this world sometimes kicks us in the puss puss. If that inner voice of yours starts collecting the negative shit they say about us, time to get rid of it. We have to actively flip our inner dialogue or it begins to weigh us down.
Here is my own example…
“Oh, my goodness I gained 15 lbs.”
Now bitch don’t stop there. Add either an “AND” or a big ol’ “BUTT”.
Let’s try it again…
Oh, my goodness I gained 15 lbs AND I still started my own business.
Oh, my goodness I gained 15 lbs BUT bitch you are still loved. Every last pound of you is loved.
Oh, my goodness I gained 15 lbs AND I’m also enjoying the fuck out of these hummingbirds and the beautiful
little space I created to recharge.
Oh, my goodness I gained 15 lbs BUT you keep eating up the joys and fruits of your successes. They taste delicious.
And that’s the damn truth, I have gained a couple of pounds but for the first time in my life I’m succeeding on my own. No bosses, no evil coworkers trying to bully me, harass me and almost no one making me pull out the 20 year old me that is just eager to give them a response. It’s the most amazing feeling and it tastes delicious, and I hope to continue to eat the yummy fruits of my labor. And I’m just getting started.
I use the ANDs and BIG BUTTS dialogue to help my clients with their negative self-talk. Reframing or thought insertion is important for those who have ruminating negative thoughts.
So many of us are used to being beat up or pushed around by others (just look what is happening in America), and we internalize that voice, and it becomes our own. Bitch, that aint yo’ voice. Take back your own inner voice. If it’s too hard and has to be there I encourage you to put your own delicious cherry on the top it and start changing the dialogue by acknowledging the amazing things that you do.
Oh, my goodness I gained 15 lbs and I am Geniva la diva mas Latina. (I loved the Mexican representation and
Becky G- bitch!)
Oh, my goodness I gained 15 lbs and I’m also a model, actress, and stand up for what is right in this world.
Oh, my goodness I gained 15 lbs but(t) I’m doing it. I’m standing on my own two feet, dancing in my living room,
and sharing love with my community.
Oh, my goodness I gained 15 lbs and I have so much love to share.
So don’t get bogged down by the negative things we see on TV and if you can help it don’t let it become part of your inner dialogue or your inner voice. “And” and “butt” that shit away.
Look for the things that make you happy.
Palm Springs You Make Me Happy,
The Happy Homo
PS And nothing new, I’m always late to the party. I didn’t know Ts Madison has her own show, “The Ts Madison Experience” on Prime. Guess I’ll be hittin the weed sto’ and tunning in.
PSS Other shows that highlight you and me in a positive light, well we all know RuPaul’s Drag Race is on the top of that list. Also Drew Barrymore (and Rossy Ross Mathews) bring love into your home. Dan Levy has a new movie on Netflix, “Good Grief.” And Billy Porter has a new movie on Amazon I purchased, “Our Son” and I’ll be throwin in “The Ts Madison Experience” very soon. Find the love if it doesn’t find you.
PSSS And Billy Porter’s “Black Mona Lisa” is amazing and speaks to my soul, but I do have to say something about “Our Son.” Billy Porter, you know damn well this movie is not believable. Who in the hell is going to tell Luke Evans that they want a divorce? That movie is damn lie! Luke Evans is way too damn fine to be divorcing. Luke I’ll stay at home and be your house daddy and take care of your kids and smile every second I’m looking up at you from my knees. Divorce Luke Evans- hell nah.
PSSSS Ooooh these gay streets be talkin. I heard… that the Christmas Song bitch from a previous employer is no longer singing her oppressive tune. Yay. About time- come to find out this person was a reason so many queer professionals in health care don’t work for you anymore. Karma smacked that bitch like she was an earwig on Ruples counter.
PSx5 So far Ts Madison is winning this season on RuPaul’s Drag Race. She is hilllllarous.
PSx6 And this just cause it also makes me happy.
