To Whom It May Concern,
It has been almost 3 years since I first drove down that long stretch of desert highway with my two dogs and my best friend in tow to Palm Springs; my new home. A lot of good times have happened since and I haven’t come out of those 3 years unscathed, but I am succeeding. I still feel like I made the right decision to move here. FUCK YES I DID!
Someone the other day gave me some props and I paraphrasing… it was something like, “You are so hot I want to fuck you right here- right now in the middle of this church service.” Fine, it was more like, “You know you’ve created yourself a brand, don’t you?” and it wasn’t even in a church.
And you know what? I was kinda hoping The Happy Homo would be a successful brand and private practice.
Yes, in those 3 years I made a couple of poor decisions. Had a couple of bullies. Was wrongfully terminated because of one of those bullies and that led to some long litigation. One of those bullies was a boss and she would make me sit for 8 clients a day when I would tell her that my back was hurting and provided a doctor’s note. What a bitch, huh? I also lost my best friend/ dog Pancho Marie. Hmmmm….that’s a lot of bad shit.
Wait, I also started my own business and I’m succeeding “from the get-go”. Seriously bonded with my other dog baby, Genny Lou as we adjusted to a life without Pancho. It has given me some tender memories that I hope will last. Made some fun friendships I’ll cultivate more after this pain is dealt with. And we recently welcomed Elizabeth Taylor (pronounced A-Liz-beth – Taylor -the normal way you say it) into our home.
Genny Lou and I are adjusting now. I’m adjusted…however, Ms. Lu is still working on it.
I’ve made a beautiful little garden/meditation/prayer space in my home, and I think it’s awesome. And so do a whole bunch of hummingbirds and my dogs. I got an intern, my first one in California and it’s going great. He’s even begun a support group for our trans clients, one for everyone and a second one for trans masc. (A much needed space.)
I found a church I feel comfortable in and a radio station I love (KGay Radio -streaming worldwide). I get to be around my queer community all the fucking time. You’re at any store I go to and in any restaurant or bar I patron. You Homos iz er’where!
I wore a leather harness out in public for the first time in my life and now feel comfortable in public wearing it! (Kind of) I imagine that I will be exploring that a bit more after the back is healed. I’ve had the privilege to help a whole bunch of you mother fuckers out here feel a little, if not a lot better. (And I mean it- a privilege.)
I’ve seen a whole bunch of my old demons try to rear up their ugly heads and I realize that I’ve won that fight for good. I’ve grown to really be a hippie loving pot smoker who wants world peace, equality, and truly justice for all of us(a)- and a just a chance to succeed.
Weed has been the life saver for my chronic pain. Also makes me a little more ditzy than normal, but it’s fun, seems to magnify my love for everything, and like I said it helps with pain.
These hummingbirds here are awesome. This city and the surrounding cities that make this wonderful queer ethnic enclave thrive are just as magical as all those stars that came here in the 40s said it was. I didn’t know all that before I ignorantly moved here. I was looking for a safe place for gays to live and googled as such. So glad I did.
I also made friends with a little old crabby bitch named, Rhonda Rae. He just turned 82 and hit a curb so hard the other day that it caused his car to be towed to the shop. What a funny and strange friendship that has turned out to be.
So, with that said after this back pain is taken care of… I look forward to seeing what else Palm Springs has to offer. I’ve hardly scratched the surface. I haven’t had time, and when I did- I didn’t have the money, and when I had the money it was a bad pain day or I didn’t have the time. Everything has hurt for years so I’m excited to see what a life is without it; can’t wait! I feel like I haven’t scratched the surface for my life’s potential at all yet and with that taken care of I’m excited to enjoy my body a bit more than I have been.
I’m also excited to see how far I can take my business, I already have some ideas.
Please stay safe out there, be observant for crazy bitches that look like they are up to no good, and call it in if you have to. Be the person to save a life. You are the hero of our story. And hope to catch ya on the other side of the pain and surgery. Excited to deepen relationships and friendships.
This weekend is my three-year anniversary, and I am so proud to call this place home. I hope all queer Americans get to experience it one day. You can wear literally whatever you want and be whoever you want however you want. You can love and be loved or not and its okay. It’s a place where those stereotypical American white conservative oppressive barriers seem to disappear and the idea of your American Dream is actually doable and achievable. It’s like you can reach your hand out and pick it from a tree and either eat it…or fuck it into existence.
In these trying times I hope everyone across our country remembers the American Dream is for everybody. We as a country were just getting to a place where it felt like that were almost true. Let’s make it true! And earlier I listed a whole bunch of “bad shit.” Although it felt really bad at the time, and it was… some of that stuff is just life- lifeing. How we respond to hard times matters. You’ve got to pick yourself up and try again, and again. And again, if need be. I’m glad that I get to figure it out here, with you, they/them, and us(a). I love you Palm Springs.
God Bless America, God Bless Palm Springs, and God Bless Our People,
The Happy Homo
PS This is Elizabeth (pronounced A-Liz-Beth) after she tore up a stuffed animal and then below that is Ms Genny Lu trying to be nice to her new sister. Its hard for her to be nice. She’s like some of you old gay farts now… she’s grumpy.
PSS PS thank you for making my business successful. I appreciate YOU! So glad to be here and looking forward to so many more here. God bless this place.
PSSS If they sign that into law it will starve people, it will hurt people. All to help the rich get richer…off of your, our, they/them and us(a)’s blood. 🙁
PSSSS I keep hearing about all the fun things happening this holigay weekend and all the hot sexy Daddy visitors that are making their way into town. Also come back post surgery! LOL 😉
